Here’s how to enact the Ego Filter:
1. First, ask yourself if what you want to say or do will add value to the person or people around you.
2. Second, ask yourself if those people will perceive what you want to say or do as kind.
3. Third, ask yourself if what you want to say or do is necessary, and whether it’s also necessary for you to act now (vs. at some later point in time.)
Here are the rules:
It is crucial to answer a resounding “yes” to each of these questions. If any answer falls short, it is advisable to reconsider proceeding. However, if you still feel compelled to proceed despite not meeting the criteria, take the opportunity for self-reflection to understand why you persist in that course of action.
Try it out!
I encourage you to incorporate the ego filter into your day-to-day life for a few weeks and observe the potential positive shift in how people respond to you. Many leaders I have coached have witnessed noticeable changes within just one week. Embracing the ego filter offers the opportunity to create deeper connections, foster understanding, and nurture an environment of genuine empathy and collaboration.